I know he loves me and I love him but it is so hard to just give up

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By Samyr Ahmad

I know he loves me and I love him but it is so hard to just give up

I left him for 3 of those years and was depressed even alone, wishing I could meet someone who loved me

I am e back home. I have major depression and see no way out. I have been in psychiatric hospitals 3 times.

Lost my home, my car. What’s left? I hate who he has become. He is a Binge drinker and goes from job to job. I’m trying to get my life together so I can be strong enough to be on my own. I need my life back. I appreciate your suggestions, Thanks.

I come true and has done so much for me and my children. I noticed before getting married that he drank a lot but he assured me it was only because he just got home from deployment and promised it wasn’t a drinking problem. I believed him. I lost my mom when I was 5 due to drunk driving, was molested my entire childhood by my alcoholic dad, attempted suicide while I was drunk, and recently my brother was in a horrible accident because of use of alcohol. I have 3 kids and pregnant with my husbands first child, I’m scared for them. I don’t want that life anymore or want my kids going through it and don’t want him or us hurt. He is lying constantly now about where he goes or doing and always has alcohol with him…even in his work truck. He works in the oilfield and says its part of the job but I feel it’s a lie the majority of the time. I don’t know what to do. I want our marriage to work and he is a great man sober but being through this my whole life…I’m not sure I have the strength or patience to do it again. Any suggestions??

I have been with an alcoholic for 12 years, I knew it going in also. He ended up with colon cancer and had major surgery, he continues to drink. He does drink less often than before however he will take off for the weekend, won’t answer his phone or let me know where he is. I spend every time trying to find out where he is so I know he is at least safe. He maintains a job and knows he has a problem but thinks more work will keep him out of trouble. Believe it hurts every time, I feel like he is not taking our marriage seriously. I have been married 4 times, all alcoholics, I feel doomed that those are the only kind of men I will meet. What do I do? I’ve been to Al Anon, it didn’t help.

But find ourselves and our value?

Hi everyone. I was crying reading the stories …. Especially Diane. I am in your exact position. I a recovering alcoholic, I’ve glint been sober 6 years…… My ex husband was a heroin addict. I’m only 30 years old….. And I’ve done it again ?? I feel your pain. He lies and makes everything my fault. Even knowing how alcoholism works, I can’t help but feel sad and betrayed(when I used to do the same things) I’m laying here tonight after him blaming me for his drinking and telling me he won’t be home tonight. That’s not fair … None of it is fair. Alcoholism is a selfish, self-seeking disease. They don’t mean to hurt others, they just can’t help it, as they are sick. Now here is my point… Will we choose to stay, and be miserable? Or choose to leave and be sad for a while…. That’s the question. God bless you and I will pray for you

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